Kapongham, 26-34, Thailand

Have you done anything lately worth remembering?

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What sustains you on a daily basis?

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If you had to teach something, what would you teach?

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What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

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- jewels249
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- |1 month ago
- I would hug everyone I meet...............and love more freely
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- Tuesday
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- |1 month ago
- probably would have had more children
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- nicole.h
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- |1 month ago
- We posted this on the AnybodyOutThere twitter page :) Check it out : https://twitter.com/anybodyoutthere
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- littleray
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- |1 month ago
- Love more freely.
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- - Kapongham
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  - |1 month ago
  - It is sad that people would judge anyone harshly for loving freely.
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  - - littleray
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    - |1 month ago
    - It is, and often, in my world, the love is taken out of context, and made to look vulgar or obscene.
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- AndrewFromHere
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- |1 month ago
- I wish I could say "nothing" like Deenie, but I know I can't. I'd stand up to certain people more than I do; stand up for what I believe, and stand up for others who can't seem to necessarily stand up for themselves.
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- - Kapongham
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  - |1 month ago
  - I think a certain fear of judgement is sometimes healthy - by that I mean looking at ourselves as how we think others may look at us, and being aware of what the results may be - both good and bad. The change in perspective can be sobering. Too much, however... and we become cowards.
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- digitalSaint
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- |1 month ago
- a lot of things!
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- marisa
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- |1 month ago
- I'd have been a lot more honest about myself and what defines me from the start instead of spending so much time in silence.
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- Deenie
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- |1 month ago
- nothing, i gave up trying to please everyone, because i cant-i'm myself and if people
  cant accept me then i'm sorry, living up to everyone else's expectations has
  not always been successful
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- - hanahana
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  - |1 month ago
  - Same as Deenie ~ nothing. What stops me sometimes is not the thought that people going to judge me but the possibility that a few people might misinterpret me. This really keeps from talking much and I just smile a lot (which can also be misinterpreted but... ^_^ )
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  - - Kapongham
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    - |1 month ago
    - Is not wanting to be misunderstood the same as not wanting to be judged incorrectly? I often don't trust other people's judgement of me (unless they are close friends) either... I think they perceive things through their own biases and perspectives, and don't necessarily come to the right conclusion.
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      - |1 month ago
      - Hmmmm.... for me, misjudging is a sort of "first impression" kind of thing... or something one does without even without knowing another person first hand (can be done based just on hearsays). misinterpreting, well, can come from only when you have something of a relationship with a person.
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      - littleray
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      - |1 month ago
      - I am often misunderstood due to my current mental status. I am often judged on my appearance. I can be posing and intimidating at times without meaning to be.
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      - Deenie
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      - |1 month ago
      - yes, thats why i cant live up to others expectations, i can only be who i am,
        no matter what i do or say someone is going to judge it
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      - Kapongham
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        |1 month ago
        
        I tell myself, nothing other people can think of me will diminish me or change who I am. It helps. (: I feel like you are saying the same thing - "I can only be who I am."
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        littleray
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        |1 month ago
        
        If that is true, then why do I strive at wanting to be better? Am I doing it for myself, or for others? I like who I am at times, but people are always telling me you should do this or do that. So I do.
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    - Deenie
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    - |1 month ago
    - im shy around people i dont know and people often say im standoffish, but im
      an introvert, i think to much. I get misunderstood
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    - - littleray
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      - |1 month ago
      - That's just the way us intellects are.
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  - Kapongham
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  - |1 month ago
  - No regrets - that sounds like a life well lived!
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  - - Deenie
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    - |1 month ago
    - as you get older, there comes a time when you have to just accept
      who you are, it takes time to learn that
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    - - littleray
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      - |1 month ago
      - and at what age should i expect this to happen
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      - Deenie
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        |1 month ago
        
        i dont know, it just happened with me, i just go tired of trying
        to fit in where i didnt fit
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        littleray
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        |1 month ago
        
        Where do you fit in now? I found where I fit.
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- leafonariver
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- |1 month ago
- kill people.
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If you had the opportunity to tell everyone in the world one thing, what would you tell them?

2 months ago

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Why are 68% of Americans overweight?

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- tucks
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- |1 month ago
- Simple science. Too many calories in, perhaps coupled with not enough exercise.
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- Meri
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- |2 months ago
- My guess: High Fructose Corn Syrup. Some biology major friends of mine just told me about a study that concludes that not all sweeteners are created equal, and that corn syrup encourages obesity on a much greater scale than an equal amount of sugar. And what have we been using a lot more of in the last few decades? Corn syrup. I'm well aware that one study proves very little, but it seems a reasonable working theory.
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- - StupidGirl
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  - |2 months ago
  - I agree. I just gave a speech on HFCS. Anything that includes that ingredient should have a warning label.
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  - - Kapongham
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    - |2 months ago
    - Meri is talking about a Princeton study that came out earlier this year, which was very flawed:
      "they failed to put into perspective the excessive amount consumed by the rats in their experimental design. Translating the study’s reported rat intakes to human proportions, the calories gained from high fructose corn syrup would be equivalent to about 3000 kcal/day all from that single source. In comparison, adult humans consume about 2,000 calories per day from all dietary sources. Such intake levels for the study animals would be the equivalent of humans drinking a total of 20 cans of 12 ounce sodas per day - a highly unrealistic amount. Moreover, the researchers concluded that the rats gained more weight from high fructose corn syrup than they would have from sugar, yet the researchers had no proper basis for drawing this conclusion since they failed to provide sucrose controls for part of the study’s short-term experiments and no sucrose controls whatsoever"
      What do you think?
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    - - Meri
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      - |2 months ago
      - Jeebus. I could have run a better study than that, and I'm fairly unscientific.
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How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are?

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Should prostitution be legalized? Why?

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What do you wish men knew about women? And vice versa?

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You are now breathing on purpose.

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What has been the biggest turning point in your life?

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Say cloning is a safe and effective way to reproduce. Should people clone humans?

2 months, 3 weeks ago

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- butt
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- |2 months ago
- It's only sex in another way...
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- Ofrolvi
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- |2 months ago
- No cloning on a regular basis would put a stop to new mutations. We would quit evolving and adapting to our environment.
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- - Kapongham
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  - |2 months ago
  - With the advent of medicine and other technologies that allow us to change and control our environment, it's safe to say that we've already stopped evolving in any meaningful way. Is part of your concern the idea that cloning would just create a population with very little diversity?
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  - - Ofrolvi
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    - |2 months ago
    - I enjoy diversity in particular diversity that has an impact on our survival and we will not stop evolving while we still reproduce in a natural way I know its hard for us to see in our lifetimes but if you need examples look back to history.
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- Rodney.Mi
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- |2 months ago
- I don't think so. I think it could be used for much better purposes than just reproduction. On the idea of reproduction, no matter how many horrible diseases and complications there are associated with it, we still do it at an exponentially increasing rate and will soon overpopulate the planet. I think it could be used for better reasons. Maybe to answer questions that are debated a lot. Like sexuality. If you cloned a homosexual person and raised them in a different type of environment, would they still end up being gay? The nature or nurture debate, you know?
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- - Kapongham
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  - |2 months ago
  - Are you saying it is better to clone someone to use them as part of a scientific study than to clone someone so that, say, an infertile couple can have a biological "child"?
    
    I should clarify - when I say cloning is a safe and effective means or reproduction, one of the things cloning could do is help infertile couples, gay and lesbian men and women, widows and widowers have biological children.
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  - - Rodney.Mi
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    - |2 months ago
    - Well, my basic idea behind my reasoning is that there are too many people in the world already. We are consuming more resources than we will ever be able to replace and are doomed to eventually either starve ourselves into extinction or live the rest of our existence out fighting over the last of the resources. And my opinion on the infertile couples having children is this: if you need a child to justify your existence or relationship, you're probably with a person who isn't fulfilling you anyway.
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    - - Kapongham
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      - |2 months ago
      - People have a right to reproductive and procreative freedom - you and I don't have the right to tell them not to have children. Do we make fertile couples justify their having children? No, because we respect that right. What's so fundamentally different about people who happen to be infertile that they have to justify that decision to you?
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      - Rodney.Mi
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        |2 months ago
        
        Technically, I don't suppose we exactly have the right to tell people whether or not they can or should have reproductive or procreative freedom. But more to my point is this: I say if they are smart enough to clone themselves without any help from people who have already worked out how to do it, then I believe that that persons "offspring" would be a good addition to the human race. But on a side note, we actually do determine who is "fit" and "unfit" parents whether it be in the form of child protective services or the acceptance or rejection of a couple who wants to, for instance, adopt a child.
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What are your favorite scary stories?

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Red Shirt protestors and government have finally reached an agreement! Thank god. Elections Thailand in 5 mos.

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If we've never chatted, I have NO idea who you are and will not approve a contact request

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- leemcbride2020
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- |2 months ago
- I'm with you. And it isn't cocky or snobbish to state, it's intelligent and safe. I would encourage anyone to chat with someone several times before considering adding them as a contact, and no one I haven't spoken one-on-one with would ever get an approval. There are plenty of opportunities for others to get to know you OTHER than being a contact here.
  
  Some...just...don't...get it.
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- CallMeStacy
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- |2 months ago
- Well isn't the point of being on here to meet people, if all you were going to do is chat with people you know, then why come here, why not meet up on myspace or some shit..
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- HomeWrecker38
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- |2 months ago
- That's pretty shallow, isn't it?
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- - Kapongham
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  - |2 months ago
  - Why should I pretend I know someone when I don't?
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  - - Rodney.Mi
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    - |2 months ago
    - I actually agree with her line of reasoning. Too many people adding random people as contact just to collect contacts. Some kind of egotistical idea of being popular I think. "I got 32 contacts on AOT", "Oh yeah? I have 427."
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    - - CallMeStacy
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      - |2 months ago
      - yea I can see where you get that... but she doesnt need to come off so cocky, plus this site is mainly about helping people who are having a rough time... who are you to deny someone when u dnt even kno why they are trying to talk to you??
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      - Kapongham
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        |2 months ago
        
        I said I wouldn't add someone as a contact if I didn't know them. I didn't say I wouldn't talk to them if I didn't know them. Using tone arguments is also not very effective when we're communicating through text - what may sound cocky to you may simply be assertive to others.
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      - marisa
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      - |2 months ago
      - I know that I personally brag to my friends about how many AOT contacts I have around the water cooler on Mondays
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      - CallMeStacy
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        |2 months ago
        
        same here.. But I mean im gonna give everyone a chance, i'm not going to ignore you... I mean unless your a freak or something... but if you wanna talk I will talk whether I kno u or not, If i didnt want to talk to people I didnt know, I sure as hell wouldnt be on here
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If you could relive one memory, what would it be?

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- Charlie2006
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- |2 months ago
- I can't remember
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- YupIamBored
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- |2 months ago
- running around new york city in my tight ninja costume throwing eggs at people.....true story (*_*)
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- - Kapongham
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  - |2 months ago
  - You're trying too hard.
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  - - YupIamBored
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    - |2 months ago
    - actually i did happen... i was about hmmm 13 you n00b...it was fun sooo
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- Tootsweet
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- |2 months ago
- Going fishing with my dad...... I miss him so much.
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- - Kapongham
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  - |2 months ago
  - I have fond memories of fishing with my grandfather too. All our senses are engaged when we fish - smell of the bait, the feel of the metal hook and tackle or the spiny fin of a freshly caught fish, the sound of waves lapping at the shore, the infinite looking horizon... it makes my memories so vivid.
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- marisa
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- |2 months ago
- I'd go back to Morocco and live it all over again.
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- - Deenie
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  - |2 months ago
  - oooh that sound exotic
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  - - marisa
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    - |2 months ago
    - I don't really like the word 'exotic' for many reasons, but it WAS wonderful.
      It's agonizing being somewhere else.
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    - - Kapongham
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      - |2 months ago
      - I feel uncomfortable when people call foreign countries exotic too. I think it's because it usually happens with Westerners --> non-Westerners; it's a Western-centric point of view. I don't know how to use any other term than calling it Othering, though it sounds too academic for my taste. Basically, it places the Western/colonizing country as the norm and center of all things, and everyone else is marginalized.
        
        This is not attacking you, though Deenie - I get that you're saying Morocco sounds different from what you're used to and exciting and fun. Totally agreed - I miss my times abroad as well.
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      - marisa
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        |2 months ago
        
        Thank you, you have summed up nicely everything I could have gone on about for hours.
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- Deenie
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- |2 months ago
- my childhood the backyard gardens and the solitary times ,the smell of lilacs and roses
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I ought to be writing an essay right now...

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Is it always best for new knowledge and technology to be acquired?

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Is there any kind of scientific knowledge that would be used for such evil its research should be stopped?

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- Dragonfly
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- |2 months ago
- well let's see...maybe mind control for starters? actually, there are all kinds that even our own government has and does still employ..and what about messing with our stratosphere and changing our weather at will? and not forgetting 'Star Wars' defense in space..there will always be someone to use something for power and control over everyone and everything on this planet
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- - Kapongham
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  - |2 months ago
  - Just being the devil's advocate here, but changing our weather at will could solve the most critical challenge humanity has faced as a species: global warming. And the reason that SDI was so unpopular was because it was seen as an impossibility in the first place - just pie in the sky. If anything, because it focussed on self-defense instead of an offensive strategy, it could be argued that it was intended to prevent evil from being done.
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    - |2 months ago
    - ok..but given history of our government and their track record of wanting to conquer the entire planet, and basically succeeding, and now trying for space too..well, it doesn't really lend to a good outcome..not beneficial to all..and..it's not nice to mess with mother nature
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    - - Kapongham
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      - |2 months ago
      - Agreed. The track record of any government with their hands on technology is pretty bad - even worse for unaccountable private companies. Look at Monsanto, for instance. :( Things don't look so good for scientific knowledge.
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      - Dragonfly
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        |2 months ago
        
        that's what i'm saying...we've come so far technologically but still suffer and lag spiritually..until we can even get in the vicinity of the 'All Is One' mentality and do things for the entire planet, we will ultimately end up like every other culture before us that did not understand or live by the laws of nature
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The sun is shining, there's a skip to your step, you just had an amazing day.. what is your theme song?

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Your house/apartment/palace/cave is on fire. What three things do you save?

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Feminist: why is this a derogatory term?

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- Kapongham
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- |2 months ago
- Do you willingly label yourself a feminist in public? People tend to shut down the moment they hear the "f" word, in my experience. But it hasn't stopped me.
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- - leemcbride2020
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  - |2 months ago
  - I do, and yes, we can all see what the stereotypes and ignoramuses have done. But to stop using the term is to admit a small defeat, and for my daughter's sake, I will never let that happen.
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- SomeoneStrange
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- |2 months ago
- Because militant feminists tend to give the rest of you a bad name.
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- - Deenie
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  - |2 months ago
  - i heartly agree with that statement. i call them the man haters
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  - - leemcbride2020
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    - |2 months ago
    - But *who* are these 'man haters,' is my point. I myself know none, and none of my lesbian friends hate men. In fact, most of the man hating I see is perpetuated by married, middle of the road women who would know a right if it bit them on the tuckus.
      
      So, again, how is it that a practically invisible minority is causing strife for the rest of us?
      
      It's a question worth asking, however my theory is that the stereotypes have been mostly started and perpetuated by those afraid of the power that women do or could have, NOT by any certain 'type' of feminist that exists. Those most threatened by it, have the most to lose, attack what they fear.
      
      John McCain would not invite me to dinner, however I am in fact a feminine, smiling, kind and educated woman who loves my family and stays home with my children. Funny world, this.
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      - |2 months ago
      - Right. Even in college, when people might first learn about feminist theories and go crazy obsessed with it, I didn't meet any manhaters. The places where men seem to be insulted and derided the most are decidedly *un*feminist places - stereotypical sitcoms with the slob husband, Cosmo articles that make it seem like men are sex-starved animals, ads that portray men as dumb and too lazy to do housework.
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      - leemcbride2020
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        |2 months ago
        
        College/university can sure get the crazy obsession going. A 40-year old academic friend of mine who is in social work (but also has done her share of feminist theory) is on it to the point that admittedly it's hard for me to avoid tuning out.
        
        In order to convince, one does have to 'play the part,' to a degree. I don't want the chick with 50 pins on her jacket all with feminist slogans and waving the banner to be on my team, thank you very much. I need confident, well spoken and calm individuals to help in my fight. :)
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        leemcbride2020
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        |2 months ago
        
        And magazines and forwarded e-mails have done nothing to improve male/female relations. I am an iota away from believing it's a conspiracy, to divide and conquer.
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      - SomeoneStrange
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      - |2 months ago
      - To be honest, men don't like being called villains by these "man haters". No, there aren't a lot of them out there, but most of us are just trying to live our lives. Getting yelled at by women on how we don't consider them equal, when most of us actually do, can be very, very, tiresome.
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      - leemcbride2020
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        |2 months ago
        
        But WHO are the 'villains'? When is the last time any man you know was called one, and by whom? Honestly, please tell us. Because I know a *lot* of women, and none of them do that. So I seek the ones who do to try to suss out why and where this happens, and in what context.
        
        And why would a woman yell that you weren't regarding her as equal if you were? When was it and in what conditions did the yelling take place? There must have been extenuating circumstances (and I'm certainly not implying that the onus was solely on you to figure it out).
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      - leemcbride2020
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      - |2 months ago
      - Sorry - first paragraph should read "wouldn't know a right."
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    - Deenie
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    - |2 months ago
    - by the way i consider myself a feminist
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  - leemcbride2020
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  - |2 months ago
  - This is exactly what I'm talking about.
    
    Tell us in your view, if you would, what you meant by "militant" feminists...and what you think is wrong about them.
    
    Insight is good.
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- CourageWolf
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- |2 months ago
- Over time it's been pushed to a bad term, but everything a woman enjoys now whether it's attending school, having a job, the right to take birth control. . .It's all part of feminism and every woman that takes part in this believes that it's right and is a feminist.
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- - leemcbride2020
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  - |2 months ago
  - Voting, let's not forget voting.
    
    I agree we all stand on the shoulders of those who came before in the first and second waves, however I would argue that all of those who take part are feminists. I went back to school late in life and I assure you, the majority of girls who were 10 years my junior at the time (around the 20-year-old mark) were NOT feminists.
    
    I think believing in our right to have the things you mentioned above makes us feminists.
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  - - CourageWolf
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    - |2 months ago
    - True, but shouldn't the people partaking in the things feminism has earned believe that they have to right to do so? Feminists come in all different types, there are those that protest and there are those who put a little bit of themselves into feminism without realizing it.
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    - - leemcbride2020
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      - |2 months ago
      - Well, of *course* they should, but many don't. I think everyone - men and women - have to right to label themselves feminist because of their beliefs or actions or both. However if a 19-year-old woman attends university because mommy and daddy pay for it, and lease her the car, and rent her the apartment, and she lines up in February outside the meat market bars with her tank-topped friends who all look exactly the same as she does, and she gives no thought nor ever speaks about her rights...is she a feminist then, merely for being a female who enjoys the fruits of others' labors? I don't think so.
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      - CourageWolf
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        |2 months ago
        
        You'll notice that I said that many don't realize it or put just a 'little' of themselves in. But yes, there are air-heads out there that (frankly) don't deserve to even be called women. I despise these kinds of women and try to forget of their presence in our worlds but with people like Sarah Palin running around. . .it's hard to. :/ However, the lack of thought is rather disturbing when I meet other women. D:
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        leemcbride2020
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        |2 months ago
        
        Well, thankfully the term "woman" isn't something we don't need to be deserving of. ;)
        
        Rather than pushing the air heads, as you say, out of our minds, it's better to educate them, lead by example. My daughter will never see me dressed inappropriately (sexually suggestive, I mean), she will always see me work hard and well. She will always know that speaking one's mind is not only important but necessary. She will know the value of education and voting and reading and driving and general independence.
        
        If I regard these other women as I do my child, that is to say, in need of teaching, the pain of seeing modern women act in a way that doesn't honor the feminists of yesterday becomes easier. :)
        
        Sarah Palin scares me, too. And I'm way up here in Canada.
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- leemcbride2020
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- |2 months ago
- Associations. It's really done us in.
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- - Kapongham
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  - |2 months ago
  - Associations with what? I suppose it'd be easier if it was "equalist", but that would ignore and dismiss the work that earlier feminists have been doing to dismantle unfair power structures.
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    - |2 months ago
    - Associations with negative (and mostly false) feminist stereotypes, that they then allow to taint the term for them.
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    - - Kapongham
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      - |2 months ago
      - Ah, the humorless hairy manhating lesbian strawfeminist stereotype. Did I get them all?
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      - leemcbride2020
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        |2 months ago
        
        I'm sure you did (maybe). ;)
        
        But like SomeoneStrange stated above: Because militant feminists tend to give the rest of you a bad name.
        
        Militant? I personally don't know anyone I would consider militant, and yet this term is continually used or referred to when one brings up feminism. Why is that and how do we crush it?
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        Precisely - that's one reason I wrote my post - how do we crush this? I think people feel attacked and defensive around feminist ideas partly because people don't understand what male privelege is, and that it is something given by society. One guy said he only "got it" when someone pointed out that every time a man is described as feminine or woman-like, it's an insult - e.g. calling someone a "pussy", a "girl", having "no balls", etc. I guess we have to learn to recognize teachable moments, and take advantage of them without being pedantic... which is difficult.
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        I heard it said once, "I'm a father of a daughter - how can I not be a feminist?" If only it were that easy. I know too many men and women who treat each other in ways that would never be acceptable as a parent. Alas.
        
        I am also pretty vocal about the male/strong female/weak expressions! Can't stand them! The expressions are so ingrained, though. Even my husband, who is awesome and equal, has slipped with the, "gee, he/she really has cojones, huh?" Grrrr. Even worse are women themselves calling each other "bitch," or (horrifically) saying "my bitch" as a submissive term.
        
        Teachable moments - yes, we must take every opportunity. Well said.
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- That... sucks. My dad had shingles really bad when he was a kid, and he ended up okay, but apparently it's worse when you're an adult. I'm sure you'll be fine though. =] Hope you get better soon
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  - Thanks. :) I'm now on anti-viral medicine, so fingers-crossed, I'll get better soon. It takes a few weeks.
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- YupIamBored
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- ZOMG everyone evacuate...its contagious!!!11 noone should be posting here...it has been known to spread even through the interwebz!11 im outta herez (*_*)
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- littleray
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- There was this one time...at band camp...
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- buckley0710
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- my nana had that.....
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  - What happened with her? Did she get nerve damage?
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    - im not sure...she was pretty old she had alot of things...
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- I almost died in February of 2009 due to Congestive Heart Failure. This disease has robbed me of everything, my life, my job, my hope and my dreams. For the past year I have been on disability living in one of the most expensive cities on the west coast. The disease also taught me how to live again, how to love again and accept love from others.
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  - Wow. You came back from such a dark and terrible place. That's inspiring, really. Makes me realize how lucky I am... and here I am whining about chickenpox!
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    - Don't take shingles lightly, especially as an adult. Take good care of yourself!
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      - Thanks. Hope you don't mind my continuing to pity myself a little. (:
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        You may do what ever you wish to do, however you choose to do it. I will do whatever I can to help see you through it.
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- we are all connected too each other..even if god is not true..which is not true..science proves beyond a doubt,both are inelligebly beyond a shadow of a doubt true/fact,chances of known science not including physical alien beings/1/100000/000000/000000/000000.FACT,according too known statistics,the chances of these facts being false are literally inelligible,if you add the extent of what we know now it is increased ten fold,but these statistics are meaningless,due too the shear amount too begin with...sorry if i strayed,you had too ask...
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  - in other words,we are all part ofone gigantic body like system called a universe,if you dont help others,you are like a disease.or cancer,not your body,but your way of thinking shall eventually be wiped out for the greater good of the host multiverse...god or not...byeeeeee...!!!
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- true..being each a fragment of the same Oneness, but each of us bringing something unique to the equation or expression of the Divine..i am another yourself :)
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  - i think you get it bro
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- Especially true with canibals!
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  - Wasn't there a football team that crashed in the Andes and had to eat each other? What can I say, their dead teammates will be with them forever...
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- True. We all carry the same capacity for emotion, but we change to handle our situations better. Overall, there's qualities that we share with everyone but not necessarily the same quality. :)
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- false..
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